I love my body, and if that makes you uncomfortable, sorry for ya!

I’m human. You’re human. What makes us so? Our bodies! And our brains, yes. This post is about the human form though.

I’ve got this body with me, experiencing everything, every emotion, that I go through day in and day out. This body doesn’t change when I’m happy, sad, angry, hangry, feeling sexy, or feeling hurt. I’ve gotten to a place where I love my body, with the room for improvement there is and all. I don’t see a reason for me to have to hide that.

I recently did a boudoir photo shoot with Kara Marie Boudoir. I did this to see the sexy side of myself that I never get to see. I feel it, and to a lucky few, I show this side of myself, but I don’t ever witness it. What I actually got when these shots came back was the confident side, the happy side, the carefree side, the fun side, along with the sexy side.

We, as a society, stress to women that they need to cover themselves up. If a woman wears something that’s too short, or low-cut, she’s dressed like a slut. How do you know she’s going out sleeping with men because you can see skin? If she is going out sleeping with men, why do you care?? (Another post, I know, I know.) Why can’t women be comfortable with the bodies that we have? Why does seeing skin make people so uncomfortable? What happened to nudity being art?

We are not used to seeing nudity in our society unless it’s pornographic. Our media is highly censored, we don’t visit art museums on a regular basis, and we don’t have nude beaches. The only time most people see someone naked, is when sex is involved. This is sad. So many adults don’t know how to conduct themselves around partial nudity, let alone a fully nude figure.

I for one am not going to let this affect how I feel about my body, and am not going to get shamed into hiding the body that I have. I’m wearing the clothes I feel comfortable in. I’m going to have my picture taken, with or without clothes, and I’m going to post those pics. I’m proud of them! The lifestyle that I live gives me the body that I have, and I’m in a very good place. I don’t feel obligated to hide any of that, in whatever form it comes in.

Sarah_KaraMarieBoudoir-8I love my body! If that makes you uncomfortable, sorry for ya!!

Perfection Should Be a Feeling, NOT a standard. (30 day challenge)

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Photo by Riley Blanks Photography

Have you ever had the perfect bite of dessert? Yeah, me too! However, I bet yours was different than mine. That’s why some people are edge of the pan brownie people, while others want that middle of the pan piece. Then there’s me, I just add water to the mix, throw it in the fridge, and eat it with a spoon!

All of those are perfect options for different people, and I feel safe betting that if you’re reading this, you can agree with that point. Let them eat the brownie (mix) they like, right? Okay, so why can’t we do this for ourselves when it comes to how we look? For other people? Why are we setting these crazy, unattainable, standards for ourselves that are being accepted as a norm?

If you have full thighs, celebrate them! Stop trying to attain a thigh gap that you genetically shouldn’t have. Be thankful if you have an hourglass figure, stop thinking about muffins when you look at yourself in the mirror. (Unless you are turned on by muffins. Then you keep on thinking of those delicious muffins.) If you have a thigh gap, and you cannot make your thighs touch no matter how much you squat and eat, and squat and eat, love your long beautiful legs.

I want you to think of the outfit in your wardrobe that you look best in, you own shit in, you walk down the street and everyone KNOWS how good it looks. You know why everyone knows? ‘Cause YOU know! And every step you take exudes that. You know why that is? Cause you feel sexy! Maybe your eyes pop, maybe your butt looks cute, or maybe you just have no worries in this outfit. Whatever it is, you feel it. You feel it as you currently are. Nothing has changed! So why do you let that feeling go away?

I’m not saying we should all stop trying to make improvements, but I am saying that we should be realistic about where we want to be. At some point, we have to realize when we are taking it too far. Focusing on “imperfections” and negative self-talking are only going to bring us down. You get the same kind of energy you put out, even from yourself!

My 30-day challenge to all of you: Write down your top 3 goals. Put that paper away.

Wake up every day for the next 30 days, and write down 3 positive things, or things you are thankful about YOURSELF. Doesn’t have to be physical. ANYTHING.

At the end of the 30 days, read through that list (There will NINETY great things about you on that list!), and re-read your goals. Have they changed? If so, write the new ones down. Whether they’ve changed or not, get started on those goals, but now with a positive vibe running through your mind.

Post your positive vibes on social media. Use the hashtag #30daysofpositive. Share the love!  ❤

It’s time to find perfection in what we currently have.