Don’t Be a Dick Because I Don’t Have One

I’m a pretty bubbly person. I smile, a lot. I also value hard work, and have a very intense grind mode. When I’m in grind mode, just sit back and watch me work.

I have worked in the customer service industry in some form or fashion for over 20 years now. I am just about always having to be “on”. My work ethic has put me in a position, at just about every job I’ve had, to have added responsibility. I thrive in high demand environments.

This all sounds great, right? It is. There is one thing I had to deal with though, and plenty of women are still dealing with it, that no male ever would. Like ever, ever. When I get in my zone, and start getting things done, I’ve got my serious face on. The one where I am ready to dominate whatever tasks lie ahead. There is nothing worse than being in this zone, and having someone come up to you, interrupt your flow, just so they can say, “Hey, why aren’t you smiling??”

“Whaaaaa?! You really interrupted me, for THAT?!”

I get it, people love my smile. (It’s an alright smile.) If you wanna see it, try saying something smile worthy! You would NEVER walk up to any man in any work place, who was clearly amid some form of work, stop his momentum, and ask him why he wasn’t smiling. Never. Don’t even pretend like you would, cause I know you’re lying.

There is still some lingering standard left over from the 1950’s about the role women play in the work force. I had to deal with it mostly when I was in the service industry working at the number of high volume establishments I was employed by. Fortunately, my current job is amazing, and I work with badass adults who just get it. I know there are women out there dealing with this in non-service industry jobs as well. One of my best friends gets it like every other day!

This happens outside of work too. I can be having a regular moment, running errands, or walking through the store, and some stranger will come up and ask… I mean, come on man! Why aren’t YOU walking around with a cheesy ass grin on your face?

If you want to see a woman smile, don’t ask her why she is not smiling, say something nice, or funny, or charming that will put a smile on her face. Trust me, you’ll like the smile you get from that a whole lot more anyway. (;

3 Reasons Boys Are Easier To Raise

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When you hear people talk about wanting to have kids, or you hear people commenting to someone who just found out they’re having a kid, you often immediately hear the question “Do you want a boy or girl?” Some people don’t care either way, as long as the baby is healthy. A lot of people, on the other hand, hope they have a boy because “Boys are so much easier!” WHY??!

If it were proven that boys potty train better, get along with other children better, and are better listeners than girls, I’d be all on board with this reasoning! Ummm, that ain’t the case though!

Let’s be honest, most people with this argument just don’t want to have to deal with any issues surrounding sex and raising a little girl. Let’s take that honesty a step further, and say that what men are taught about sex, is completely different than what women are taught about sex.

Here’s what makes raising boys “easier” than raising girls…

#1.) Girls have to be taught how to cover up the bodies that they will grow into, and simultaneously be taught how important the way that body looks is.

You better not be to big, too curvy, too flat, too wrinkly, or too lumpy. Don’t do anything to scar up that skin, but don’t show too much of that skin off. If you wear clothes that show off the curves you have, boys will put their hands on you anyway they so choose, and that will be YOUR fault. If you don’t want someone touching you, don’t let yourself be seen. It’s not reasonable that you should be able to stand up for yourself and verbally let someone know if they can touch you or not, let alone being taught how to physically stand up for yourself. Besides, boys can’t be taught to control urges like girls can.

#2.) Boys can have sex with as many people (really just girls, because people aren’t comfortable with them sleeping with boys yet either, but that’s for another post…) as they want and it won’t affect how they are viewed by others.

The thing that’s flawed with this, is that these boys have to have girls to sleep with for this to happen, but no one wants for it to be their daughter. Girls have to be taught that sex is meaningful, special, and between two people that really care for each other on top of all the other sex ed stuff. That takes SO much more time!

#3.) Girls have feelings and emotions to deal with.

This one is for you fellas. Why can’t men have feelings too? I admit, women are MUCH more emotional than men. Some of them WAY too much so, but that doesn’t mean boys have to be taught to be a stone wall to offset this. I’ve known too many guys that feel they have to hide their feelings about things around their friends, and can only open up to the girl friends they have. Not fair. I guess it’s just easier to shut that shit down in the beginning, when the boys are young. Teach them all urges relate to something physical, no thinking about it needed. They can handle it, they’ll be men one day!

So I guess the secret’s out! Boys ARE easier to raise than girls because it takes SO much more time with girls.. Ugh. I really need a vomit emoji.